so many harry potter fans completely erase snape’s past and write it over to make him a snobby rich kid who speaks like he’s 40 year old count and i think it is so interesting.
because it proves to me that the reality of snape being a kid living in a poverty stricken and abusive household on spinner’s end makes you all uncomfortable.
i sure know it made me uncomfortable to re-read the books for the first time and see all the comments about his greasy hair and sallow skin with the new knowledge that these were markers of his poor upbringing. we’ve heard the saying how being poor never really goes away. snape keeping these two markers as an adult is the author’s way of doing it. he’s an adult with a better income now but he never quite shakes off spinner’s end.
he also stays there as an adult as a way to punish himself, if the front room described as a ‘padded cell" is any indicator. he can’t move on and he won’t allow himself to, and dumbledore won’t allow it either. it is he who twists the knife with harry’s eyes and tells him this is the only thing he can do to prove he truly loved lily. despite you know, dumbledore apparently not believing this due to his shock at snape’s patronus 17 years later.
both times in snape’s past when he butts heads with petunia is because she insults his background, something he cannot control. she calls him the 'snape boy’ from spinner’s end, a clearly 'turn up my nose’ moment. harry goes through most books referring to snape as 'snape’ because snape is a bully and therefore does not have harry’s respect. many times adults correct him to say professor. and his first name isn’t said often. so this puts a distance to him, almost others him to this 2D character. but 'snape’ is an actual person, with feelings and a past, present and future. so severus snape doesn’t take kindly to people insulting his family which is why he claps back at petunia.
we also know snape is a muggle name, his muggle father tobias’ name. we only find out in book 6 that snape is a half blood. because what wizarding family do you know with the name 'snape’. and prince isn’t part of the sacred 28 either. when harry breaks into snape’s memories accidentally in occlumency, seeing those three quick snapshots of his life, it’s the first time snape starts to become a real person to harry.
moreover, 8 year old snape is described as dirty, unwashed, wearing clothes that are so mismatched it looks deliberate. he hasn’t got clothes of his own, wearing an adults jacket and a woman’s smock. snape’s family either cannot afford to properly clothe or wash their child or they simply don’t care too. when petunia insults him again, this time instead of his father she goes for his mother, as she points out snape wearing his mother’s blouse, we get another example of underage magic as he causes a tree branch to fall on her.
now despite this, we know it is likely snape really did want to cause her harm due to her insult. snape already is shown to have poor social skills and snaps rather quickly at any point of animosity, but he was also raised in an abusive household. his father whipped him, and shouted at his mother and god knows what else. makes sense that an 8 year old responds to tension with either insults or violence, mirroring his home. snape is also very reluctant to talk about his homelife at all, ending the conversation very pointedly with “he doesn’t like anything much.” so it’s not surprising that a child raised in this kind of environment would respond violently. even worse, he does it without really realising what he has done considering he looked confused when petunia and lily ran away.
on platform 9 and ¾, snape is eager to get out of his muggle clothes and when put next to james potter, the stark difference between someone who has been loved and adored and someone who hasn’t is explicitly put in the books. and lastly when snape calls lily a mudblood after being yanked upside down exposing dirty underwear, lily points that out. her way of saying 'don’t you dare say you are better than me - im filthy? how about you wash your clothes.’
all in all, i think the fans write over this backstory because people do not want to give snape any sympathy. he’s not the right kind of sympathetic character. he’s an unpleasant adult who made terrible decisions. therefore his tragedy doesn’t count. it’s much easier to hate him when in your head, snape is a rich, snobby supremacist, rather than a penniless, neglected and woefully misguided teenager.
odd that peope can understand the impact of certain characters childhoods like sirius, regulus, draco or harry and how it affected their actions as teens and later adults…
but not snape.
in fact, snape is probably the poorest character in the entire series apart from maybe voldemort, although the orphanage didn’t seem underfunded or anything. fans characterise lupin as poor but there is little evidence for him being poor as a child, more as an adult. i’ve seen people say this was because of the fact that his father worked at the ministry and arthur weasley worked there and he is not rich but the weasley’s are poor because there are 7 of them living on one income. and we can assume lupin’s muggle mother worked. if anything, lupin’s childhood was comfortable but became unstable due to them constantly moving after he was bitten.
abd that’s pretty much it, we don’t know too much about anyone else. the dursleys are middle class as are hemrione’s dentist parents and while the weasley’s are poor, they are not poverty stricken - ron never goes hungry. snape also never really adresses his muggle past either. he doesnt bring it up ever. for all his 'life is unfair’, he never speaks about that part of his life, choosing to solely reference the marauders. and the two main bullies, james and sirius both being rich kids bullying the poor boy is not lost on me. especially when they constantly reference his greasy hair all the time.
poverty greatly affects a person well into adulthood and we see with snape; it never really goes away. sure he’s well spoken now, and doesn’t wear mismatched muggle clothing but the remnants are still there. in fact, one of the reasons he hates harry intially is because he thinks the boy has been pampered. quite unlike his upbringing. so i think it’s telling how many people refuse to acknowledge its very existence or the how it shaped snape as a person.
becuase i think it all makes you feel really uncomfortable. why else would you ignore or completely erase it?
Because I’m only seeing other Jews posting about this, non-Jews I need you to be aware that for the past month or two there has been a wave of bomb threats and swattings at synagogues all across the US. They usually do it when services are being livestreamed. I haven’t seen a single non-Jew talking about this. High holidays are coming up in a few weeks, which is when most attacks happen against our communities. We’re worried, and we need people to know what’s happening to us.
None of the major news outlets are running it. I had to Google it. Everyone is so distracted by the rest of the nation’s fuckery right now.
I work with kids. These kids are at my program before and after school, and then some of them have sports/dance/music sometimes all of the above before they finally go home, eat dinner, and go to sleep. Then rinse and repeat everyday, and games and more classes on the weekend, etc.
I’m all for extracurriculars, but this turns into the teen who is not only in the school play, but they’re on the newspaper, the football team, and seven different clubs. In college they take double the courseloads, and then once they graduate…what?
They work themselves raw because they arent used to downtime. They’ve been told they can always be doing something, and they don’t know how to relax. This turns into the adult that has anxiety because there’s nothing left to clean, the adult that desperately wants to watch that TV show but can’t force themselves to sit long enough for it.
Then they turn into the moms and dads who spend all their free time ferrying their kids to extracurriculars.
Like, these kids don’t know what downtime is? I told a kid I did nothing last weekend, and he looked at me like I was crazy. He asked what I was doing this weekend and I said “Probably sleeping, mostly,” and he actually gasped. Then he rattled off a bunch of things I could do, to which I had to stop him.
“No, you don’t understand. I plan on sleeping. I’m booked.”
“But you could–”
“Nah. I’m just gonna rest.”
It was as if I had said a bad word or something. I asked what he does when he gets sick, and he says he goes to practice anyway. I asked him what he does if he doesn’t feel like going, and he said he goes anyway. I asked when he takes time to rest, and he said when he sleeps at night.
Bring back lazy Sundays. Bring back Saturday morning cartoons. Bring back the idea of relaxing and soaking in your day before moving into the next thing. Bring back the right to breathe, the right to rest.
Bring back mental health days, and taking a break. Bring back taking a walk or watching a show or setting a timer to remind yourself to stop cleaning and relax.
If you’re running at 100% all the time with no time to recharge, then your battery is going to die spectacularly, and probably at the worst possible time.
Mood
Society is trying to burn us all out. Tell society to fuck off.
Go take a fucking nap. You’ve more than earned it and you deserve it.
We HAVE to recharge. Our bodies, our minds, our everything requires it.
My dad told me when I was young that the way to take a vacation is to work on something different and I thought, and still think, that that’s the most obscene idea anyone’s ever told me to my face.
>a wild therapist has entered the chat
I can’t tell yall how much of my practice is teaching people - teenagers and adults - to do nothing. To stop. To rest. To turn off.
Folks are so resistant. A lot of the time, people don’t think they deserve it. A lot of the time they don’t know how. A lot of the time they don’t think they’re allowed.
I only have my own experience to pull from. I spend a huge amount of my time on fucking around. Lazing. Chilling. Sloth. It drives my family CRAZY that I don’t care to push that hard. I just don’t. I never have. I love it and I prioritize it. Fuck everyone else. I used to feel bad about that and sometimes still do.
But last night I was at My Local working on catching up on my patient notes so I could have my whole weekend off to sleep late and write fics and recover from the week with nothing more pressing than laundry and the server I’ve known for a decade was like “Keep working hard, it’s what you do.”
And I said “Yeah, thanks!” Because I do work hard.
How much time I take to myself doesn’t negate the hard work I do. In fact? The amount of time I take is why I can work so hard.
Everyone around me is burning out. Everyone. A big part of why is because they don’t feel like they’re allowed to take that time.
Fuck that.
You hear me? Fuck. That.
If your space is clean of the kind of mess that will attract insects and it can wait? Let it wait. You need to rest. Because the rest is what lets you work hard.
You only have so many spoons. You will run out if you don’t let yourself take the time to replenish.
It’s not a matter of deserving. It’s a matter of necessity.
If you do not schedule maintenance, your equipment will schedule it for you.
